The 10 Commandments of a Pole Student
- I will respect my body. I will warm up, cool down, and try to feed it the nutrients that it needs to work. I will listen to it when it tells me that it’s feeling weak, tired, or hurting. I will strengthen, condition, stretch, and rest, realizing that all of those elements in balance are necessary. My body is the best tool I could possibly have, and I will appreciate it for all of its strengths and all of its flaws because it works damn hard for me.
- I will respect the difficulty of my sport. I will not take for granted that it is hard, brutal, work that requires superhuman amounts of strength. I will use all available safety measures when trying new tricks.
- I will not push myself into tricks that I am not ready for. I will not jump or kick into tricks. I will work trick progressions to build strength, muscle memory, and body awareness. I will admit that not every trick is right for every body, and that I should not expect to be able to absolutely everything.
- I will do my best to find an instructor that inspires, pushes, and supports me. Once I find that instructor, I will trust them and respect them to know what is right for me and I will openly communicate with them about my concerns and goals. But until I find that instructor, I will take active steps to do the best I can with the instruction that I have available to me. I will take an active role in my own learning.
- I will not covet my neighbor. I will be positive and supportive to those around me, whether they are from my studio, state, or community at large. By seeing others succeed and grow, I will fuel my own desire to be the best poler that I can be.
- I will not judge my neighbor. We were all beginners once, we all have different styles, and we all have different goals. I am no better than anyone else just because of what I am able to do on a pole. I am not there to teach or criticize. I am there to learn.
- I will forgive myself. I am doing this because it is fun, and I enjoy it, and the challenge is exciting. Everyone has bad days once in a while, or for days at a time. There is no race. There is no finish line. There is no time limit. There are no mistakes. “Failure” is a learning opportunity in disguise.
- I will be true to myself, and what I am hoping to get out of pole. Whether I started pole to feel sexy, strong, or both, I will set goals that are specific, realistic, and achievable. I will not measure myself against anyone but myself. And if I am in need of a day to just spin, just roll on the floor, or just work super hard tricks to get my mind off of something else—I will do it. Pole is my therapy, my sport, my passion… not my obligation.
- I will not pole under the influence of any drug.
- I will take steps to trim, manicure, landscape, shave, or wax. Or I will wear full coverage shorts.
What would you add to the list?
Monday’s post: Showcase!…

I will make every attempt to not stink from too much perfume, cigarettes or BO as to not gas out the studio and possibly aggrivate the allergies of my fellow students.
Chemmie…this one is SO important! It drives me nuts and I have many students and myself who get ill from this!
I quit smoking a few years back (had smoked for 10 years) and the smell of cigars and cigarettes makes me nauseous now!
I will not harshly judge myself for being too old, too fat, too skinny, too flat-chested, not pretty enough, etc. I will find beauty in who and what I am and enjoy being that person.
I can’t believe I didn’t include that in #1!!! I am adding that right now. *smacks forehead. Thank you Mary Ellyn!
Your welcome!
love it, Amy! 10 makes me LOL since I just bought those fishnet pole briefs from Bad Kitty with a really low front
Those fishnet briefs are LOWWW. Maybe because our butts are big?
This is really great. This should be posted in every studio. I think I just expanded on ME’s.
I will appreciate and respect every single body type, every toe flex (or point), every different movement that doesn’t necessarily mimic my own goals and cheer it on as I would want to be cheered on when being watched.
I will laugh at mysel and just get a kick out of me.
Ah, yes, feet flexed or pointed should all be loved. And remembering to laugh and have fun is always the most important takeaway from class!!
I love this. And will print it out on a few cards to hand out to those who might be in need of a few hints. Thanks Amy!
When someone wants to share my blog, that one of the biggest indicators to me of a job well done. Thanks Rita
Mandatory reading for ALL polers: students and instructors alike. Thank you!!
10 commandments of a pole instructor coming next, maybe?
Love! Posting this in the studio!!!
Thanks Shay! Love that you love it enough to share
I will respect and trust my dance partner- my pole. Keep it safe from rings, bracelets, watches, or other jewelry that may potentially damage the surface. I will keep it clean and maintain it’s security regularly. A happy pole = a happy pole dancer.
So true, that’s a good one Koba
And no LOTION!
i LOVE your list!! I cannot express how true i think it is
and haha at the 10th commandment
Oh lord yes, the 10th one is IMPORTANT! =)
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I am printing this and putting it up in our studio. I’m also giving a copy to every one of my Level 6 Students! Thank you <3
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Thank you for that! I’m so glad this entry was meaningful to you