Thursday Tips: Wrist seat
Nemesis Trick: Wrist Seat
Also Known As: Hello Boys, V sit, Eye Opener
Today’s tip is related to a relatively simple looking trick that seems to get a lot of people stumped when they work on it. Before we start, let’s take a look at the video so we’re all on the same page. As usual, if you’re reading this from your email, click here to see the video right on YouTube.
Here are the important things to keep in mind:
If you set your top hand too high, you won’t be able to lean back, and get your torso more horizontal. I generally aim for about chest height with the top hand.
You want your hips really tucked under, like this, so that you are almost setting your butt crack on the pole. Sorry, vulgar, but there it is.
This is what NOT to do with your hips. This is a neutering position. You don’t want this. This is owwww on the good bits. See the difference? It’s important. Look closely at the line of the back of my back. If your legs are pointing DOWN before you go into the trick, you aren’t rounding through your back and tucking your hips under enough. They should really be pointed STRAIGHT out in front of you.
Next, is hand position. Most of us, when we get ready to go into this trick, will over grip the pole with the top hand, like this:

So what you’ll find, as shown in the video, is that you will gradually spin in the trick until your wrist is in neutral, like this:

If it really freaks you out to spin in it, make sure to align your wrist in neutral as you set your top hand.
Another important factor is what the bottom hand is doing. You can see the position of my bottom hand and wrist relative to my body at the end of the trick, as I spin to crotch shot the camera (oh how glamorous). If you pretend you’re wearing regular underwear, you want to set your bottom hand so that the wrist runs right along the outside edge of the undies as they cross your butt cheek. Some people like thumb up, some prefer a regular baseball grip (like the “neutral wrist” picture right above, thumb on one side fingers on the other). I don’t have a preference, but I do think it’s important to try switching hands because you may want your strong hand on bottom to start. Try it out both ways. To get that hand into position comfortably without feeling like you’re trying to cross a huge expanse of butt and your arm couldn’t possibly be long enough– tilt a little bit towards that side as you reach so that you make it easier for yourself.
This next part is the thing that I feel like most people have trouble with: As you get set to take your legs off the pole, and bring them towards your chest, you need to be PULLING with the top arm. Your weight shouldn’t be entirely supported by the bottom hand; if that was the case, you’d be actually sitting just on the hand and you have to be pretty strong to do that. Even though your top arm is straight, you should be PULLING the pole towards you by pulling your shoulder back and your shoulder blade down and into the middle of your back. This creates tension- by pulling the pole towards you, you’re essentially pulling your butt into the pole, and those two points of contact should help to alleviate a good amount of the weight off the bottom wrist. If you’re sliding hopelessly as you try to go into the trick, you need to pull MORE with the top arm. I tilt my hips slightly so that the side supported by my bottom hand is a tiny bit lower; this helps to stack my weight over that hand and keep my balance.
Good luck with this move! If there’s something that I missed, that was helpful for you, please feel free to leave it in the comments!!
Tomorrow’s post: Starting your own Flight Club…



You may have just solved the reason that I could never get this. I don’t think I ever pulled. I always just sat, and I was like, there’s no way, I can put all of this on that one little hand. I’m so trying this today in our open pole class. Thanks so very much for this tip. This really is my nemesis. Wish me luck!!!
Yeah dude, and you’re just sliding down and it’s the saddest thing ever…. Did this work???
It is getting better, but still doesn’t look as effortless as I would like it to. I’m hoping if I don’t have it by the time of your Galveston, TX Nemesis workshop that maybe we could work on then. I’m hoping I do have it, so I can work with you on my other nemesis moves though. Thanks again for the tip.
Sounds like a plan, Traci
Thank you so much! I’ve been working on this trick…I’ve been sliding out of it and when I’m not sliding it just HURTS! Now, I know what I’ve been doing wrong. Wasn’t pulling enough with the top arm to create the tension I needed and I didn’t have my hips tucked under far enough. Will be working on this when I hit the studio in a few hours!
Yesssssss! How did it go?
Love this!!! I have been on a mission to get this one. I am reblogging youur tips once a week for our hotties. Your videos are awesome!!
Thanks for reblogging Jennifer! Good luck, let me know how it went with this trick!
As always fantastic job Amy! When I was learning this one, I kept reaching my bottom arm around the side of my leg to get under my butt. What finally made it click was when I started to reach more around my back and and then go under my butt. My lower arm was in a better position and able to support me.
Thanks for bringing that up Dustbunny, hopefully that helps some readers out there!
The Mynxers have a slightly more inappropriate name for this move: “cunt-killer”…
Because of the “neutering position” that many people unfamiliar with move do on the first try…
I am pleased to say someone already told me of the infamous Mynxie name for this trick
When teaching this to newbies, I have them reach around so far that their arm in IN their ass crack. This allows for a stronger grip because the leg isn’t pushing against the forearm and therefore, pushing the arm off the pole. It also makes it easier to lean back and get the lady bits off the pole, ha ha. Then when their grip is better/stronger I teach them to grab the pole where you’ve got it.
Nice modification UT! I tend to not teach this until the students are pretty strong, since it can be a reeeeally scary trick to learn.
thanks, going to try pulling with other hand; this has been one of my nemesis tricks.
How’d it go??
Our ladies at Pole Addiction in Ferndale MI affectionately refer to this move as “the butt of flowers”……I know the correct approved name, and this is still all I can think of! I can do this move, but now I have more tips to make it more polished and refind. Thanks Amy!
There’s lot of inappropriate names for this, I didn’t choose to list any in the entry for the sake of decency ahhaha. You’re very welcome Jessica! xoxo
I just found your blog- I began pole dancing a few months ago and can’t wait to try your tricks. I definitely have a problem with this trick, and now I’m working on Yogini….
Glad to be of service!
Did you see the Tip on the Yogini as well? That’s an ouchie one!
I know this is way after this was posted, but I have my own variation that might be helpful to some people. I use cup grip with my bottom hand. There have been a few incidents where I’ve been in a performance, started to slip slightly (*side note: i am a notoriously sweaty poler) and caused some thumb pain. I started to think that if one were to slip out of the move, cup grip would be safer for your thumb and wrist than “thumb up the butt” or less so baseball grip. It requires a bit more strength and pulling against your leg rather than just gripping; but I really like the way my thumb and wrist feel protected in it. I know Michelle Mynx also uses this grip.